||[Jun. 10th, 2009|09:01 am]
|||||"He Said, She Said" Ashley Tisdale||]|
So, have you ever held someone's career in you hand and thought, "Oh God, what the hell am I doing?"
A while back, some really stupid girl in my unit - who for some reason hates me - decided that she was going to do something incredibly stupid. Go figure. See in the military, we have something call fraternization, which is a big no-no. As in, against the rules. That includes officers in relationships with enlisted, AND the clincher here... NCOs with junior enlisted. So, this girl, she's an NCO - like me - and she's seeing this guy. Then they break up and suddenly she's hanging all over this kid who she definitely out-ranks. That whole two up two down does not apply. The kid goes some place else for a while, then she's hanging all over another kid.
Everyone (mainly the NCOs) are like "Uh, hello, why not try to be a little less public about it". But no, she's out there, hanging all over him in the most obvious places. And she's not one of the those people that are content to hold hands in public, she's one of those girls that absolutely HAS to be the CENTER of EVERYTHING. So if her guy isn't paying attention to her she has to throw a temper tantrum and storm out of where ever they are. Anyway, something happens one night and the two of them are found out. People are called in to right statements.
So, this is like a criminally punishable act. Sort of. We have something called UCMJ and you really don't want that to come down on your head. But you know, when the sergeant-major looks you in the face while he's in front of all the NCOs in the battalion, and says he will not tolerate fraternization in his unit, I tend to sit up and listen. One would think that the people right below him would do the same. Except no. All this girl has to do is write two essays and not be near ONE kid in a personal setting. Like they can only go out in a group.
She pretty much gets her hand slapped and that's it. Like, no no naughty naughty girl. ARE you freaking SERIOUS? Then all of a sudden, people are coming out of the woodwork with stories about her. Apparently, she's got an STD that she's passed on to at least four different people. She's handing out prescription medication that isn't even hers. Oh yeah, and the first guy she was hanging around, he's married.
Me, thinking, what? We should put a stop to this. This is bad. I'm worried about these soldiers and the example they're being given, I go - along with a fellow NCO - and talk to the platoon mama. She's is shocked, obviously some of the kids where scared to write all of this down in their initial statements, that and they just didn't talk to the right people.
So yesterday, I go and write my statement. Itemizing all of the things my soldiers told me. Hopefully making it obvious that this is not first hand, but what I was told by the junior enlisted that are afraid to come forward. And now, I have to go to the sergeant-major today and "clarify some things". Whatever that means.
And herein lies the dilemma. Like I said she hates me. We both got to Korea about the same time, her maybe a month before me, but I out ranked her. Mostly, because I'd been the freaking army two years longer that her. I don't know, just a thought. Anyway, she moved up quicker than me at work, obviously - she worked there longer. We were fine for a little while, until my roommate came. Now contrary to what I'd said in an earlier post (19 yr old with the mentality of a 15 yr old) she was actually a pretty good friend and we got along great. We had almost the same personality and sense of humor. People liked us.
We also didn't throw temper tantrums when we weren't the center of attention. So anyway, all of sudden, this girl is talking trash about me behind my back - can we be anymore like a high schooler? Grow up. I pretty much stop talking to her, outside of maybe joking around at work. She goes on leave and I work my ass off to get on par with her. Which I manage in less time than it took her - **pats myself on the back**. Then she comes back talking about how she's "practically forgotten everything".
What. A. Dumb. Ass.
So she gets bumped down. And I make manager before her. Oh how her face gets red and she hates me more. Then I'm up for promotion before her. Steam from the ears.
Now, after her little fuck up -literally- I hear from some of her soldiers that she's been telling stories about me when they first get in. Making me out to be the biggest bitch alive. Which you know, I can be. And have been on many occasions. But when my own soldier comes up to me and says that he dreaded coming into my squad because of what she told him...it just pisses me off.
When I go into his office today, I'm going to tell the truth as I know. That I've seen a soldier coming out of her room and locking her door. I've seen her grab a key from a soldier and leave, as if to go wait for that soldier in his or her room. I've been told more stories about her than I could even write about. And though I'm leaving in just 8 days, and I might not be here to watch her downfall, I will thoroughly enjoy ever second of my talk with sgm.
Although he is a pretty scary guy. Like, I don't know if he ever really smiles.